Mind Your Mouth to Empower the Way You Talk to the Mind, Body and Soul

  It’s not always easy to mind your mouth.   At times, thoughts or emotions racing through the brain can hijack your voice, prompting you to say something disguised as your “truth”. In other scenarios the mind shifts into default mode, leading you to share something that feels disconnected or flat. And let’s not forget how negative self-talk can weasel in when you already feel low.   Regardless of your personal experience, the specific words, tone and focus of self-t … [Read more...]

Creative Simplicity Starts When you Break Free from the Known

  The idea of breaking free from the familiar can seem complicated and messy, but it’s how you move beyond the rules you create for yourself to connect with creative simplicity.   Creative simplicity is a term I’ve come up with to describe what I strive for in my own life. It’s that sweet spot of being in the creative flow while freeing the mind, emotions and releasing judgments so I can be with what is.   I see creative simplicity as practice not a goal, and it’s of … [Read more...]

Creativity Kick-Start: Refine the Edges of your Creative Integrity

  Creative integrity is a unique blend of what you believe and how you feel when you express that creative truth. It’s both fixed and fluid at the same time, shaped by how you “practice” being yourself.   As you build a flowing dynamic between your beliefs and self-expression, you get a clearer sense of what’s natural for you; an inner rhythm that simply allows you to “be” without actively thinking about it.   Now let’s toss in life’s biggest plot twist - dun dun dun … [Read more...]

3 Reasons your Creative Boundaries Need a Refresh, Right Now

The creative boundaries you set for yourself serve two key purposes. One is to help focus your energy and self expression and the other is protection from pain and fear. The trick is that while boundaries keep you safe and clear they also box you into a way of creating that’s limiting, repetitive and drains your creative spark.   When you feel comfortable there’s no real reason to change how you create. However, over time, the boundaries you’ve established for comfort become creative b … [Read more...]

Managing Demands on your Creative Time

  It’s no secret that life requires you to manage demands on your creative time. Projects take longer than expected, plans go sideways and people change their minds and hearts- which means you need to expand and contract with the creative flow of the present moment.   While this sounds reasonable from the mind’s point of view, it doesn’t mean you aren’t entitled have an emotional reaction to sudden changes, or the right to get frustrated when people keep demanding more than you … [Read more...]

Are you Creating Boundaries or Self-Imposed Limitations?

As someone who used to have very thin boundaries and lot’s of self-imposed limitations, these two heavy hitters often get confused more often than you think. Word-wise the difference seems obvious. Boundaries are defined as self-protective, and limitations are defined as rules and restrictions. Whether you jump into creating a boundary or a limitation as a reflex is determined in those powerful moments when you sense things are getting uncomfortable, or as if your reputation and value may be o … [Read more...]

The Fine Line for an Empath: Taking a Torch to Guilt and Saying Yes to Yourself

Guilt as a word feels heavy to me, even as I say it out loud. It’s dense, chunky and nebulous, like you cannot get your hands around it or find a way to cut it loose. Now imagine if that guilt was not because of your own choices or challenges, but because you feel torn between choosing to support others OR being mindful of your own needs.   That’s how it feels to be an empath — caught between feeling others emotions and deciding how to support them while still honoring yours … [Read more...]

When Reality Slaps you in the Face, Do you Slap Back?

It happens in a second. Sometimes in a millisecond. You aren’t stunned as much as you are completely unprepared and confused, but at the same time, it all just clicks. Then you begin to realize, oh yea…this is the new truth. And life will be forever different. But don’t go automatically thinking I mean this in a negative context, or that it’s the result of some big, mind blowing event. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. This new reality is freedom. It’s growth. It’s the idea that life can evolv … [Read more...]

Check It! Habits and Boundaries

People strive for safety. It drives most if not all our choices, even at the most subconscious of levels, and soon turns into habit. This inherent desire to be comfy, safe and protect ourselves is very instinctual and seems relatively harmless, but can easily transition into a block or challenge in various areas of life. In my work as a writer and healer, time after time I see people who have no idea that their habits and personal boundaries may be causing limitations or frustrations in their … [Read more...]

Change is Inevitable; Expansion is Choice

Expansion. It’s a fun word because of all its potential implications. You can expand your business, your outreach, your waistline with multiple cookies, your horizons or…expand your MIND. They all sound like fabulous ideas (ok, maybe not ALL of them). But what does the term expansion really mean? By definition, expansion is the act of getting larger or spreading out; the condition of being expanded; dilation; enlargement. It also means the space through which anything is expanded; pure space. … [Read more...]