Living your big dreams in every day life can seem impossible, especially when you are rooted in a practical day job or dealing with bills, kids and taxes. But the reality of your dreams becoming possible is directly correlated to the wings you give them to soar on their own, and includes the expectations and outdated beliefs you’ve piled on top of them.
When things are not moving forward in a way that looks like the picture people have created in their minds, they jump to the conclusion things are off track, broken or are never going to happen. And that may be true, in some ways, because you cannot completely conceptualize all the details and how they will play out. You need to create space for it to show up naturally, at the right time, and have an open attitude to support and grow the dreams once they do.
The truth is, you cannot see or understand all the reasons why something is happening in a particular way, so your mind tries to think its way through it, basically committing blind self sabotage. And as this congestion of thoughts piles up, one on top of the other, you unknowingly clip your own wings with all the parameters and expectations for how it needs to come together in order to be “dream worthy.”
The Real Cost of Extra Baggage
My experience as a healer has shown me what we all drag around with us – a bag of brick-a-brack hooked onto our backs comprised of disappointments, old patterns, hurts, fears and anything else you haven’t acknowledged and released. Pulling around this mental and emotional weight makes it harder to walk forward towards our heart’s desire, and is the largest barrier to connecting with our true selves and inner most dreams. And yes, we ALL have one, just filled with different “stuffâ€.
There are countless tools and ways to break through these barriers to gain clarity and peace in the mind, body and spirit (contact me personally if you want suggestions), but the number one key to moving past it all is true willingness, and that’s what’s hardest. Can you admit there is really something that needs to be healed, and jump in with both feet to greet it? More importantly, can you stop looking outside yourself, pointing fingers and throwing blame around like confetti?
When you can truly be open and face whatever you see and feel, you will realize how many self-imposed or “learned layers” stand in the way of spreading your own wings in life.
Feel unsafe? Delve into why. Think you’ll never measure up? Who ignited that in you or showed you that was the right way to walk through life? No confidence? Is there an event that triggered you to think it’s unsafe or wrong to be in the spotlight? How about health issues with no apparent cause that are not healing? They are more than an hindrance, they are unexpressed emotions rising to the surface for healing, but they need to be acknowledged first. Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life is a great beginner’s resource for understanding how emotional blocks are related to physical manifestations, and how to shift your mindset to move past them.
Growing and Expanding your Wings
Empower yourself. Give yourself time to day dream, brainstorm and go within, past the racing thoughts and fears, to really listen to your heart. Break through old ideas of who you think you are supposed to be by challenging them on paper, through art, therapy, energy work, exercise — however you can. Look at relationships and experiences with others as mirrors to show you where you are stuck or are unable to see all of your own greatness, and then take action to change it.
Give yourself the chance to expand ideas outside where they feel “comfortable” and trust. Support yourself with openness, love and a willingness to “go there”, and watch your wings expand farther than you ever thought possible.
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